Love Yourself Unconditionally
you always think about yourself, you are too self-centered".
Sounds familiar?? Yes, this is the statement that we usually get to hear whenever we prioritize ourselves. Although thinking about yourself before anything else is not being self-centered or selfish rather it comes in the category of self-care. Taking care of your inner being is as important as it is to take care of your outer self.
People often mingle self-care with selfishness or narcissism. However, there is a fine line between the both. Narcissism is a personality disorder in which a person thinks about him/herself only. On the other hand, in self-care, you think about yourself along with others. a narcissist lacks empathy for others but a self-carer contains empathy for him/herself as well as for others. Simply put, the tagline for a narcissist is ONLY ME and the tagline for a person with self-love is "I along with others".
Once, the difference between narcissism and self-love is clear, it is important to know why you need to prioritize yourself. They say "You cannot pour into others' cups when your cup is empty". You need to love yourself to love what is around you. You need to be considerate to yourself be strong and positive. For instance, helping others when your own body is in pain is not a holy act of SERVING HUMANITY rather it is an injustice to your poor soul. You have to learn that it is ok to not serve others when you are not feeling well (mentally/physically or emotionally). We need to learn boundary settings if we want our relationship with ourselves and with others to be healthy and refreshing. Research has proved that people with high self-esteem never put their self in a secondary position. Such people love others but before that they love themselves. There are certain habits that we need to develop to keep ourselves at the top of the list of those who need compassion. If you want to learn those habits, keep in touch. I'll write about each of those habits in the next blog. Till then, keep loving yourself.
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